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I'm Not For Everybody.

Kenn
Oct 22, 2018
2 min read

I typed the title of this blog with duck lips, finger snaps and even threw in an "OKUURRRRTTT" (in my Cardi B voice). LOL!

As an adolescent/young adult, I was the girl that expected everyone to like me. I wanted them to. I shied away from anything out of "the norm" and before I made any decision, I would carefully weigh out how it would affect others and their thoughts of me.

As a kid, it worked out pretty well. I was well-known, stayed out of trouble, got good grades, kept up with my physical appearance (blah, blah blah).

But as an adult, not so much.

I allowed the "what ifs" and "what would people say" keep me from making mistakes and enjoying life. Although, it's pretty natural to want to be accepted by others.....I honestly didn't grasp the concept that not EVERYONE is going to like me and that was okay.

you are not everyone's cup of tea.

The journey to my own self-discovery and wanting to please me most of all came a couple of years ago. I made the conscious decision to put my feelings and desires as a priority. That meant examining my insecurities and getting out of relationships or friendships that weren't conducive to my personal growth.

I've learned:

• There will be people who take one quick look at you and immediately make up their mind that they "don't like you" - They have no desire to get to know you. This is THEIR problem, not yours.

• Just as you're not for everybody, not everyone is for you! (Bloop!) 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Those people who call to check on you, who ask if you're okay and how your family is doing. Those who go out of their way to send you jokes and make you smile. Those who “get you” and embrace your quirks and (for me) CORNINESS. 😂 Those are your people and you are theirs.

I can wholeheartedly say that at this point in my life (for a while now actually)- I am completely okay with people not liking me. Life is way too short to spend time worrying about those out there who don’t like you and fixating on the reasons as to why they don’t like you.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THOSE THAT LOVE YOU

I will continue to smile at strangers, give random compliments to people in the grocery store, share positivity (and a few memes!) and.. be nothing more than 100% ME at all times (corny and all).

I will not seek the approval or even opinion or others, I won't jump through hoops to impress anyone nor will I waste any energy trying to figure out why someone dislikes me.

Because................. "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn."

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XoXo,

Kenn.